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Believe. Dare.

Opening oneself is a challenge. It's just as much a challenge opening oneself to others as it is to being completely honest with ourselves.

Opening ourselves to others is a scary thing. You may want to show this person more of you, but are scared. And with good reason. What if that person isn't who you think they are, or want them to be? Then what? So, you have to trust them. You yourself are able to decide who you trust, and how much you trust them. Yet, trust too is a scary thing. Trust is so powerful and means so much when it exists. Yet one word, one action, one thought can change all of that. It only takes an instant for everything to crumble.

Trust is so fragile; so how do you build it with someone? It needs to be built upon a stable foundation. But then, what's a stable foundation? Nothing is cut and dry in this world. Black and white situations do not exist. This only furthers ones fear of opening ourselves to others, to strangers.

As time goes on, I see more and more how little control we actually have in our lives. And more and more, I realize that I am actually okay with that. Life is far to short to worry about things beyond our control. So what do we have control over? Ourselves. We can control our actions, thoughts, words and emotions. But some days, I think even that is debatable. I guess all we can do is have faith in ourselves, especially our hearts, as dangerous as it may be.

But we only have so long to live, so many people we have a chance to meet and so long to make a difference. If you believe in yourself, you won't go wrong. I'm not saying you won't get hurt or that nothing will go wrong, or that things will be easy. I am saying that in the long run you will benefit from this belief in yourself, that you will create a positive impact on those around you, and that you will live a good life. Believe in yourself, believe in God, believe in dreams and success and joy. Believe in life.

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