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A Stab at How to Talk

We all have been taught from a young age the value of communication, and good communication at that.  But what is communication?  Better yet, what is good communication??

Communication can take many forms, all of them falling under a category of either verbal or non-verbal.  It is the ability to send messages, convey information, and/or use actions to relay information or establish a point.
That being said, we use communication every day.  We use it when we order food or drinks, we communicate when we say 'hello' or 'goodbye' and it is shaped by our tone of voice, our body language, and the format of any sentence.  So what is good communication?  Are we always expected to be able to communicate in a good manner? I'm not so sure.


So much of it will relate back to who you are trying to communicate with, and what about.  Is it something important?  Something minor?  Should it be communicated in person, or will a phone call suffice?  Work related, relationship, family, friends, school, making plans, giving condolences...they all will be approached in various manners. No wonder good communication is so hard.

Even when we think we have finally figured out how to communicate with someone under a specific circumstance, we get thrown off.  We get thrown off by their reaction, their mood, their perspective, their opinion, their thoughts!  It's never ending.  Every time we communicate with someone is unique.  That's the key- we are all unique and we all communicate differently.  It takes time and effort to communicate effectively with each individual, and it will always be a work in progress.  Well, unless you're perfect.  Or can read minds.  Both of those attributes could be quite beneficial.

My point: don't throw someone under the bus right away, and give others the benefit of the doubt when they don't understand.  Try new approaches.  Be kind, be forgiving, and be patient.  Most important: don't give up.  Most of the time, it's worth the effort.  Stick it out, and smile.

I know I need to work on my communication- I have a tendency to react too quickly without having all of the information first, and I get defensive quickly.  So to all of you out there, be patient with me.  I really do care and I promise, I am listening.

Are you??



Want to know more?  Check out some of the links I stumbled upon!
Body Language
For the office
Everyday and Relationships
For the Men!

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